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Why The Name Prince Daddy?

Why did I name this blog Prince Daddy?

Well, it used to have a more serious name, and, when I was really upset about not having enough contact with my daughter; I’d come over here and vent. I’ve since deleted most of the venting posts. There comes a point in your life when you just have to accept your reality. And, there comes a point when you also have to recognize what role you played in creating your reality! …for good or bad!

So, I just didn’t want to put a negative vibe out into the universe. When you are in the midst of a real conflict with the child’s mother; it’s so easy to get swept away by the emotions. Yes, it’s human. But, I didn’t want people to come over here and have my emotions exacerbate their already high-pitch emotional state. I want to help people to actually calm down. I want to remind everybody that YOU HAVE TO GET ALONG FOR THE SAKE OF THE CHILD! It doesn’t matter who’s wrong or right. YOU BE THE BIGGER PERSON!

After struggling around with family court and my baby mama for some years, you know, it becomes clear that you just can’t go through life upset all the time! It’s no way to live. You know…it’s really no way to live.

The truth is that my custody problems really soured my whole outlook on life for a period of four years. I think this is understandably human. When you love your child, and, you’re not seeing your child much and having endless conflict with the child’s mother; it’s enough to get any man upset.

But, I used to be a happy guy before all this started. I used to laugh and joke around all the time. And, I want to be that guy again. I REALLY WANT TO BE THAT GUY AGAIN! Does that make sense to any of you. So, I deleted the stuff that was sort of snarky. And, if you come across some older post that’s a little snarky…well, I think you’ll understand where I’m coming from and the type of man I am.

So, I’m still devoted to trying to provide good and reliable info to noncustodial dads who are going through the ringer! Absolutely! You’ll see I’ve got a lot of law and advice collected here. But, I did want to try and change the tone. I wanted to make it a tiny bit more fun.

Thus the name Prince Daddy. A fun name. And, it’s important to remember that your little child probably does think of you as “Prince Daddy.” Remember that. There are enough people in the world who will try and make you feel lousy. But, remember, you are “Prince Daddy” to somebody!

If you’re looking at this site, chances are you’re in the midst of a struggle over seeing your child. Perhaps your ex-wife or ex-girlfriend is successfully managing to keep your child from you. I’ve been there, and, I know how difficult it is to get through this.

You’ll find a lot of information here about court orders, attorneys, the rights of fathers, custody, child support, federal and uniform laws, visitation, etc., but, here is my primary message:

Don’t Give Up!

I got through it, and, you can too.

The key is to stay positive! I know that may sound corny, but, it’s the only way to go. And, educate yourself. Knowledge is power. And, don’t stop enjoying your life! I know you’ve got a big problem…but, don’t go through life with your head down! It’s not going to help you or your child!

I hope you find this to be a helpful resource.

When I first got bamboozled by the family court out of adequate contact with my daughter, I was really flipping out. I looked all over the web, and, I found a lot of spammy, commercial stuff along with a few good resources. This is the site, though, that I wish I would have been able to find when things first went south.

The message is: DON’T GIVE UP DADS. Your sons and daughters need that thing which only you can provide. Don’t get discouraged. Keep your chin up. Stay positive.

This blog does not offer legal advice and no relationship is implied or inferred by use of this site.

Comments

Comment from Bo Kissel
Time: September 19, 2007, 11:15 pm

This site is great! I am a female, divorced, parent with joint physical custody and waived the right to child support for the best interests of my son and his father. My son’s father has him most weekends and is a very nice, decent man. I am currently in a relationship with a divorced man whose ex-wife is absolutely nuts. I have never seen anything like it. My boyfriend could have written the majority of your comments word for word…WOW, freaked me out! Do you do any lobbying to try to get better laws for divorced dads? Men don’t want to divorce their kids, they want to get rid of their wife’s only. It is such a mess, this system, or lack their of a good one. I can’t believe how men can get so screwed just because their ex-wife is a hateful, bitter selfish human. It so wrong! Keep it up, tons of men need this site and so much more! More women need to be supporting these men too for the sakes of their child at minimum! I do and will continue too! God Bless!

Comment from papa
Time: September 22, 2007, 1:03 am

Dear Bo,

Thank you so very very much for your kind and encouraging remarks. I’ve been very busy, so, I’m really sorry that it took me a couple days to get to this comment.

You said this,

“I can’t believe how men can get so screwed just because their ex-wife is a hateful, bitter selfish human. It so wrong!”

———-

Yes, Bo, how I agree! I was just dealing with my ex a few minutes ago in an email. She simply won’t cooperate with anything. And, you nailed it… it’s really bitterness……

But, of course, life is tough for everybody… and, we must be strong for our kids.

To answer your question, I don’t do any legal lobbying. That’s something that I don’t know much about. Thus far my contribution has mainly been collecting the information for this site.

I want to do much more including making this site more comprehensive…

I am budgeting my time to allow this.

Thank you so much Bo, and, God Bless you!

Comment from Brad Bradford
Time: September 30, 2007, 5:38 pm

I could really use some help, urgently! I am a 100% disabled Vietnam veteran who is being court ordered to pay an extremely high amount of child support. My ex makes alot more each year than I do, and I am on a fixed income, and cannot legally work to make more. I can’t afford an attorney and need someone to help me find a way to prove to the Maine Department of Human Services Child Support Enforcement that they can’t treat all of us fathers like garbage. Is there anyone out there who can help me put these people in their place?

Comment from papa
Time: September 30, 2007, 7:30 pm

Dear Brad,

Hi. First things first… keep your chin up and stay strong and don’t give up brother!

Now, Brad, I’m not a lawyer, but, I can tell you one thing: you need one… bad!

Now, I’d suggest that you put your time and research towards finding legal aid and pro bono programs that help poor folks get legal representation.

Research that.

Over at this site:
http://www.abanet.org/legalservices/findlegalhelp/faq_freehelp.cfm

It says,

Who else qualifies for a free lawyer?
In non-criminal or “civil” cases, you do not have the right to a free lawyer. But there are many legal aid and pro bono programs that provide free legal help for the poor in civil cases. These programs generally help people whose income is less than 125 percent of the federal poverty level, although in some cases they help people whose income is slightly higher. (Look at the table at the bottom of this page for the current income guidelines.) In addition, people who are elderly, disabled, the victims of domestic violence, enlisted in the military or in other special circumstances may be eligible for help even if their income is a little higher. Because these community-based programs often operate with very small budgets and don’t have enough resources to serve all eligible people, they handle only certain types of cases and must turn away many people who ask for help.

In your comment you say you are disabled and a Veteran and low-income. You should be able to make those things convert for you.

Do not give up and check back right here to update or pose more questions.

Hang tough,
Papa Dare

Comment from Ms.Harri
Time: February 26, 2008, 9:01 am

I recently just broke up with the father of my 3 weeks old child. He threated that he was goin to take me downtown for joint custody even though we never made any arrangements about the baby, he just assumed I wouldn’t let him see his child. But my concern is where he is living and with whom. I dont want my child outsdie of my home with him because I dont know where he’s staying (considering we have been living togther for the past 2 years) and with whome. I know he does live with another female whom i dont know. What should I do? He cant get joint custody if he dsoent have a stable household right? and even if he did I would have to be comfortable and know who lives in that home-for my child’s wereabouts right? Please help I need answers.

Comment from JUDY
Time: March 14, 2008, 4:31 am

my son i in jail and his soon to be his xwife has the kids . he needs a good lawyer free. so he can see the kids. please help my son someone. i feel his wife set him up

Comment from papa
Time: March 14, 2008, 6:25 pm

Dear Judy,
In my experience, it’s difficult to find a good lawyer even in you have money. I’m not trying to be funny in saying that. That’s what my experience has been… and, from my reading, it’s also been the experience of may. So, I don’t know how to answer your question.

But, I can recommend a forum where you may be able to get more answers. Read this post.

Comment from Ruben Che Espinoza
Time: March 30, 2008, 6:20 pm

I can’t believe the law here in mi. I left my girl in may of 07 last year and everything was alright my only complaint was that i wasn’t seeing the kids enough. I only have one kid with her but she also has a 9yr old boy whom i took in as my own his name is austin michael day my daughters name is emberatriz maiyah espinoza she is 2 now. so like i was saying every thing was alright other than me seeing them more often, i have helped my ex girl alot i let her take my car i let her take my furniture i’ve given her money and when august of 07 came she started asking me for school clothes money for austin, i didnt want to give her any because i know how she is she was going to ask her mom her dad and anybody else who would help her but i didnt want to let austin down so i met up with her on aug.19th and i gave austin 100.00 dollars i put it in his hands i told him to get some school clothes my daughter was asleep i thought i was going to get her the next day so i didnt wake her i told my ex good bye i even stroked the side of her face shed a tear and told her that i loved her, she was damn near begging me to go with them shopping but i didnt want to start hanging around her again. the next day for reasons still unknown she quit letting me see my kids. we argued a few weeks i threatened to go to the courts we would argue about it she told me that if i did it would be a long time before i saw my daughter she said that i would have to have supervised visits and that i would have to pay child support wich i thought was all bull. i ended up filing papers with the courts on sept. 7th so they could help me, i thought, they made it worse. i was suppost to have a cociliation meeting in oct. and a week before my ex whent and got a ppo on me and so we had to se the conciliator seperately. To make a long story shorter the law states that ” after a mother and father sign an acknowledment of parentage concerning a child born out of wedlock, in accordance with the acknowledment of parentage act, MCL 722.1001 et seq, the mother has custody of that child unless otherwise determined by a court or otherwise agreed upon by the parties, in writing. a police agency may rely on a duly executed acknowledgment of parentage as establishing the mothers custody of the minor child, unless presented with a court order or written agreement signed by the parties stating otherwise.”

Comment from papa
Time: March 30, 2008, 11:17 pm

Hi Ruben,

go here:
http://ancpr.com/forum/index.php
register, post your story… you will get help there…..
it’s a good spot that I’m involved with, and, there are a few people there who I believe will be able to offer some guidance

Comment from Candice
Time: May 15, 2008, 3:58 pm

My brother and his ex girlfriend split up. About a month later even though the kids were with him CPS was called on her and I ended up with three little girls. One of them is not related at all and the other two are half sisters. My brothers ex is the mother of both of them and my brother is the father of the youngest one. He completed his CPS classes and now has his youngest daughter back and the oldest was adopted by the mother’s parents. My brother has been working things out so that the mother and grandparents get to see the youngest and he gets to see the oldest once a month. The mother never complied with CPS and she still has to be supervised while visiting with both of the children. My brother is moving to Oklahoma from Texas and plans to continue to allow visitation. The mother told him he’s not allowed to take his daughter out of state… is this true?

Comment from papa
Time: May 15, 2008, 5:20 pm

Hi Candice… that sounds like a complicated situation, and, I’m not sure if you provided enough information ……. is there a court order in place? what does it say ??? see, that’s really always key in these cases…

Candice… I have a few thoughts on this issue; but, I am not an attorney, and, the law is both subtle and complicated…

I highly recommend this service:
http://www.princedaddy.com/family-law-questions-answered-for-a-fee/

What’s cool about it is that you can have a lawyer answer your question for $15 or 30 bucks… and, see, when you get involved with a lawyer who charges $300 an hour… you’ll see 15 or 30 bucks as quite a bargain… and, a lot of my readers have been very pleased with this service… also, if you’re not happy with the answer, you don’t have to pay…

I advise you to absolutely make sure you know how the law affects your individual case before your brother makes such a move…….

good luck Candice

Comment from jim
Time: May 29, 2008, 10:22 pm

i have trial in august for custody, im representing myself,any advice

Comment from papa
Time: May 30, 2008, 3:18 pm

Yes, Jim… and, I’m not trying to be amusing… my advice is get prepared! And, I see you’re on this site so that’s a step in the right direction. Read and study… I don’t know the details of your case, so, I can’t comment in detail… but, whatever the circumstances show that your child having maximum time with you is in the child’s best interest…… are there any problems with the mom?

papa d

Comment from Josh
Time: June 11, 2008, 1:35 am

Hey guys! I am in a huge mess right now that I could use some help with. I just found out (about two or three months ago) that i have a 5 year old daughter that i knew nothing about. She was conceived on a one night stand. the mother knew how to get ahold of me and just chose not to till 5 years later. In the mean time i got married and had a beautiful son with my loving wife. Anyway long story short….. Everything was going ok my wife son and i were seeing my daughter on a pretty regular basis and then my wife got into a verbale disagreement with my daughters mother and now we are lucky to even get to talk to my daughter on the phone to say good night. We have taken the all of this to the states legal aid and they set us up with a para-legal. I dont know what else to do. I was wondering if you guys might be able to help me arm my self for the up coming battle with some need to know knoledge to get my daughter where (I beileve) she will be better off…..with me in my home. Thank you so much for taking the time to read my rambblings. I also thank you for this site i feel great vibes from it.

Comment from papa
Time: June 11, 2008, 7:14 pm

Josh, thanks ……. basically, my standard advice is to ask the mother to attend mediation with you to reach an agreement. That’s the best, cheapest way that will result in the least amount of adversarial feelings. Beg her to do this if that’s what it takes.

If she won’t agree to mediation, then you have no other choice but to proceed to family court. If you go that route…then, you have to figure out if you want to use a lawyer or represent yourself. Either way, you have to do some reading and prepare. There’s a lot of info on the web (including here) about those possibilities…there are a lot of books out there as well…..
http://www.princedaddy.com/about/fathers-rights-custody-books/
and, there’s a cheap way to get a lawyer to answer questions:
http://www.princedaddy.com/family-law-questions-answered-for-a-fee/
good luck……. stop back
papa d

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