Comment from Dwight Scott
Time: March 16, 2008, 7:11 pm

My wife left my daughter at daycare 5yrs. ago while I was at work when I recieved the call that she hasn,t been picked up and hasn,t been around since I just located her who should get custody I work everyday same residence 5yrs. she doen,t work although public assistance is paying her rent who should get custody.

Comment from papa
Time: March 16, 2008, 9:05 pm

Yo Dwight, thanks for stopping by. I’m going to need a little bit more details about your situation. There’s not enough information in your comment for me to form any real thoughts….

Add more if you get the chance.

thanks

Comment from J. Jerome
Time: March 17, 2008, 8:47 am

Long story short:

My ex and I met in the Summer 2006. We were together up until last summer. We found out she was pregnant in April 2007. Things went downhill from there. I respected her decision as to whether or not she wanted to continue with the pregnancy. She chose to do so, which I’m grateful for, however, she also chose to start seeing someone else. He decided to start an altercation with me (gee, I wonder why), in which I acted in self-defense. That same day, the police contacted me and told me that my ex was filing an Order of Protection against me. So, from Summer 2007 and up until our son was born in January 2008, this other man has had the freedom to father my child, only because the mother insists of keeping this OP upheld, so that I’m kept out of the picture. I filed from papers with family court, but unfortunately I have to wait until April 29th to see her in court. I need any advice I can get! Thank you.

Comment from lori riccio
Time: March 24, 2008, 11:06 am

I am the mother of two children in the State of New York. I am writing because I have been to Court with my X at least 6x and he truly believes he is above the law. I went on this site to prove to him once and for all he is wrong. He has been in jail, got his life back together and still refused to pay. The Court has ordered him to pay and he pays when it is convenicent for him. He has bought a house, a rolex, gucci, engagement rings and yet thinks the kids deserve nothing. My daughter is away at school maintaining a 3.75 GPA. My son just turned 18 and is attending City college. I know the law in NY is he must pay until 21 does that include while in college and i dont mean going for a masters degree? Please help settle this nightmare. I am on the other end.

Comment from C JONES
Time: April 1, 2008, 5:32 pm

MY BOYFRIENDS EX GOT PREGNANT WHILE SHE WAS SLEEPING WITH HIM AND HER FIANCEE . SHE THEN MARRIED HER FIANCEE AND THE TWO OF THEM RAISED THE CHILD FOR THIRTEEN YEARS WITH THE CHILD BELIEVING THAT HER FATHER WAS HER HUSBAND. THE CHILD WAS BORN WHILE SHE WAS MARRIED AND HER HUSBAND’S NAME IS ON THE BIRTH CERTIFICATE. NOW HER AND HER HUSBAND ARE GETTING A DIVORICE AND SHE IS SUDDENLY UNSURE OF WHO THE FATHER IS. CAN SHE PETITION THE COURT TO MANDATE A PATERNITY TEST? AND IF HE IS THE FATHER WHAT ARE HIS LEGAL RESPONSIBILITIES?

Comment from Heather
Time: April 28, 2008, 9:56 am

My daughter is going to be 2 in May. Her father has had nothing to do with her since she was born. He lives out of state in florida. Now all of a sudden he says that he has filed in florida for a court case to have visitation rights. I told him that he is lying because he would have to file here. He says that he never had a fair chance to fight for her. The thing is we had 6 seperate court dates that he failed to answer his phone or show up in court. Thus giving me sole legal and physical custody of her. He has a bad history of DWI’s and pot charges. I just wanted to know if he has a chance of taking her out of state for visitation like he is trying to do.

Comment from Jamie Brunson
Time: May 5, 2008, 2:19 pm

Question i have a baby with a woman that is very anger and bitter at me and she just applied for a order of procteion asginst me do i have a chance when going to court to win custody of my daughter?

Comment from papa
Time: May 5, 2008, 3:01 pm

Hi Jamie, you always have a chance at winning custody of your child because custody is always temporary (though a lot of custodial moms don’t seem to realize that). Now, you don’t provide much information, so, I’m sort of guessing what you’re trying to figure out.

I don’t know why people don’t take the adequate time to express their questions clearly. No wonder there is a tiny piece of shit father’s rights movement that is getting ABSOLUTELY NOWHERE! Yea, I am angry Jamie.

At any rate… if you mean that a temporary restraining order was filed against you, then, when you go to court it will be strictly about whether that is made permanent or dismissed. My advice to you is to concentrate on getting that dismissed, because, if it’s not, your chances of getting custody just went down the au de toilet.

Comment from Kaseys Grandma
Time: May 15, 2008, 11:21 pm

Grandmother of a beautiful 5 year old girl, Kasey who is the apple of my eye. My son has been going thru a very nasty custody hearing over the last year which recently was turned upside down by false allegations. He hasn’t seen his little girl since Jan. this year. I know that doesn’t sound like a long time to some but it has also turned my world upside down. She is an only grandchild who doesn’t even seem to want anything to do with our side of the family. Her mother has been telling her things to change her thoughts about us and has already made a new family to take our place. I am very lucky to have a wonderful husband and 2 stepsons that have been standing by my side all the way. We live about 22 hours apart so most of my support for my son is done via the internet and the cell phone. I will be joining him for the next court hearing in NY May 22, 23 please pray for a positive outcome.

I am going to ask that our lawyer try to get an independent evaluation, mother currently has child in therapy but no one has contacted my son.

Comment from papa
Time: May 16, 2008, 12:23 am

Kasey’s Grandma, thanks for stopping by ….. yes, it sounds like a VERY LONG TIME to me!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I’ve been there. I know. I know what it feels like to be kept away from your child. It, as you say, turns the dad’s life upside down and, in many cases, also dad’s mother and father….. and other relatives… it is one of the toughest things in life to deal with…

I had to be careful not to slide into depression during those days…… And, yes, your situation is a bad one… complete with false allegations… yes, it is a tough deal ……..

What your son’s ex is doing sounds to be pretty much in the Parental Alienation Syndrome vein …… one thing I wonder is does the mom have some money at her disposal? from your message, it sounds like she’s got some money, and, that makes things tough because she can afford the lawyers and so forth ……….

Should you need to ask a lawyer a question for cheap ($15 to $30 bucks) check this out… (it’s helped a lot of people) …

http://www.princedaddy.com/family-law-questions-answered-for-a-fee/

Hang in there…. good luck …. your son is very lucky to have your support…

papa d

Comment from Greg
Time: October 30, 2008, 9:06 pm

Hi! Im hoping i can get some advice. I have a 9 yo boy with whom I’ve had joint custody for the past 3 years. The mother has primary physical custody. Recently she was evicted from her apartment for failure to pay rent. (She does not work and is on disability) She had 3 days to move all of thier belongings before the marshal showed up to lock them out. While she did that she dropped my son off to me. ( I moved all his things to my place) The move took place Sept 25th. That was the last we heard from her. We had no contact with her what-so-ever. My son was worried. I even traveled to the new apt and no one had seen her there either. She just disappeared. We called,text & asked her friends and family if they knew of her whereabouts and to no avail. I continued to maintain my sons normal routine. You see before she was evicted we lived on the same street. My sons school is only a block away. He has his own room in my apt and he is in familer surroundings. Her new place is barely a one bedroom. There is no where for him to play and they would have to share a twin bed. Did i mention that she left my sons cat locked in the new place for days without food or water? Luckily we were able to rescue the cat. I filed a petition for custoday based on a change of circumstance and abandoment. She showed up a month later with different stories of her where abouts. She told my son she was in the streets ( a ie) and she told me she was at a friends house. what are my chances of winning phsical custody? Thank you in advance for answering my question.

Comment from papa
Time: November 1, 2008, 3:44 pm

Greg, it’s difficult to answer your final question. There are so many circumstances and things that I don’t know.

You always have a chance. I know that’s a lame answer, but, you need to demonstrate that the mom isn’t in the kid’s best interest and that you are…

try the question box at the top of the page

pd

Comment from Greg
Time: November 5, 2008, 10:19 pm

What would you need to know? I’ll answer the best I can. I really need some advice.